ou’ve spotted a profile online you’re smitten with. I’m afraid that if it turns out to not be true, I might wind up in the middle of the Lincoln Center Barnes & Noble curled up in a ball weeping and muttering something about attractive women and the lies they tell, covered in all of Nabokov’s work.
I hope it is—the little man who runs my brain has taken over and made me send you a note.
Reports from dating-site users range from one who cited a ratio of “about a million to one” contacts to actual dates to another who had two dates almost immediately and is still dating one of them.
Before long, you’ll have e-mailed back and forth with someone you’re interested in meeting face to face.
It might not sound very romantic, but you can’t argue with stats and figures and following a set of guidelines will probably help you feel more comfortable when sending your first message.
Netspeak is the main culprit when it comes to unsuccessful first mails.
Your mother always told you so and you never really believed it too much, but the fact is that first impressions really count.
I’m all for curled-up-in-fetal-position jokes, but he should quickly move on to commenting on something else in her profile.”-Kendra, 30, New York, New York The verdict: Eric gets kudos for originality and sense of humor.
But a few of your contacts will eventually respond, and other people will start contacting after they see your profile.
How long it takes depends on the site and the individual user.
That’s why it’s important to establish that shared connection right away.
“In my profile, I mentioned how much I love the Yankees,” recounts Scott, 32, of New York City.